How would you respond to this teacher of your grade 4 child?

My daughter has this teacher for a second year in arow. This teacher seems to have the need to have something wrong with my daughter. She sent a note home again this year containing the same concerns as her phone call last year. My daughters eye site is not good, she has these episodes where she zones out and is not there, etc. Last year I took my daughter to the doctor and to an optometrist and she is perfectly fine. I told the teacher that my daughter does have a high level of frustration in her class and that she feels intimidated by her style (this teacher is very difficult to deal with and has a very rough personality. Any of my communication with her last year got absolutely nowhere. I find her impossible to deal with, as does my daughter). Other kids also cannot stand this teacher. Other parents have felt that she picked on their kids. I talked to the principle last year, who just put me on hold and put the teacher on the other line. That was pointless.

A new year... different pile, same crap. How should I respond to her note that my child has moments of zoning out, etc?
I am thinking of short and to the point. Something like, "I have none of these issues at home. These seem to be the same issues you had last year. Please work with her."

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there are no other classes or schools nearby. I just need this teacher to shut up and do her job, lol Instead of calling, I would schedule a meeting between you, the principal, the guidance counselor and the teacher. Perhaps together, all four of you will be able to find a solution.

Consider getting other parents to make reports to the principal and/or guidance counselor before the meeting, so that they are well aware that you are not the only parent and child with these issues.

Is having her placed in another classroom not an option? It woudl probably be the best, besides homeschooling (which I recommend, but realize not everyone can do).

If communicating with the teacher in writing, I would point out that you take her concerns seriously and that last year, you took your daughter to see two different doctors and both found there to be no issues with her eyesight. Also, adress the fact that it is perfectly NORMAL for children to have periods of daydreaming and restlessness. It is unnatural for them to sit still and be quiet all day. CC any written correspondance to the principal and/or guidance counselor.

I hope you find a solution to the problem! Call the principal of the school and tell him/her that you would like your child put in a different classroom. If after a while that teacher also gives you the same assessment of her - then get her into a doctor but it may just be that they ( her and the teacher) just dont "click". Sometimes it really is the the teacher! No matter how hard a person tries - no one gets along with everyone.

well like you said your daughter is only in like 4th grade she is still yong wen i was that old i did the same thing your daughter isnt really just zoning out tht means shes a creative thinker or maybe she cud b thinking about goin home and watchin tv or playin with her toys and friends its a young thinkg i mean this teacher also does neeed to remember your child is very young.

Attempt to talk to the principle one more time,and try to have her transferred from that classroom.If that dose not work I suggest you go to the district office and see someone.I had an issue once and that straighten out the situation immediately!

i would reccomend calling the school and getting your daughter out of that womens class untill they do it, or just write the teacher a note and tell her maybe she souldn't be so boring and your daughter might listen to her.

Maybe not possible for you but my son had similar issues and what we found worked best was changing schools. I went from phone calls and notes everyday, he been in new school for 3 years now and I have only had 1 phone call

Have her put in another 4th grade class with a different teacher. I had to do the same for my daughter in 2nd grade. Changed everything. No more problems.

tell the teacher-
look my little girl has a little problem but you need to find another way to hep her get over her zoning in and out

Go observe it yourself

i would reccommend getting your daughter switched out of this woman's class

I would write the type of note you outlined. And I'd add, if you need any help don't hesitate to call. Good Luck.

Tell her that you will beat her up :D lol !

If the principal is not addressing your concerns then call the school board. My complaint would not be only one the teacher but also on the principal that would not mediate the situation.

Secondly I would attach a letter from the eye doctor saying her sight is fine and until she gets her M.D stop sending me letters home about her sight. (now I would also get a second opinion on her sight to make sure the teacher isn't right).

If there are other teachers in the school who teach that grade I would demand that she is transferred.

I like what you are planning on putting in the note. If there are other parents who are dealing with these issues, I wouldn't even dignify the note with a response though.
But the other thing could be that your daughter might be having difficulty paying attention if she's bored. My mom told me that when I was in Kindergarten all the way to grade 4, my teachers wanted to push my up a grade because I was too advanced and I would finish my work so fast that I would stop paying attention and I started to disturb other kids. I had read through every book in the classroom, and my parents still refused to move me ahead, because they didn't want to take me away from my friends.
I would ask you daughter about the things her teacher says. The teacher might be just blowing smoke and being dumb, but maybe your daughter is genuinely bored or can't pay attention because another student is talking to her.

I would say get her check by a austistic doctor and not some general peds doc, they have a different testing that they conduct for children who tend to zone, sometimes its really just the child being a daydreamer. Other times it could possibly be a defect in her brain taking place, I think the teacher is on the mark ,remember they are trained for years in learning how to see certain behaviors in children I dont' think she has it in for you soley. But, if that is the cause maybe transfer the child to another class where he sole attention is focusing on her school work. But it is better to consult someone in another area of medical field on testing.

Can you request another teacher or that you daughter be able to take a test that shows she should be in another grade higher than she is. Maybe you could talk with the school board and see if you could get her in another school? I would only do this if you couldn't get the principle to cooperate. You should set up a parent teacher principle meeting and face her and the principle at the same time. No child should be left behind or treated badly by their teachers. I hope you can get the problem resolved for both you and your daughters sake. Good luck.

Obviously this teacher is doing her job by writing to you regarding your childs behavior or issues. You say she has episode but have you ever taken her to the doctor? And I dont mean an eye doctor.... A real doctor should be able to help if your daughter does indeed have "episodes". Then you can give the teacher a note stating what is going on. I wouldnt use the terms I have none of these issues at home. Most children behave differently when they are at school and if you truly do not have "zoning out issues" at home is leads me to think your daughter doesnt want to do her work or participate in class. You would see signs of these zoning out episodes if she truly had them. I know your going to come back with a billion excuses on how its the teacher fault but you need to take a look at your daughter. Im not backing the teacher completely but I can imagine it is pretty hard to be a teacher.

I went through something like this when my son was in 2nd grade. Do you know what fixed it? I told the school that I was holding my son back since his behavior wasn't good enough for 2nd grade then how could it be good enough for 3rd? Well, they didn't like that at all. It seems they don't like holding kids back anymore, maybe especially because my son academically was at the top of his class. So the social worker did this study comparing my son to all the other boys in his class. Guess what? The social worker said his behavior was average. I never heard a bad thing from that teacher again. Sometimes, it is a personality clash and not the kid's fault at all. Teachers aren't always professional.

go to the board or someone in charge, present them with a petition for her removal that is signed by the other parents and try your best to get rid of her. people think that just because they are teachers and have a degree in teaching, think that these people can teach little children.try your best to get rid of her. if not, focus on concentration methods with your grade 4 child, which can help keep her focused. have you tried meditation? it centers the body and mind into one and keeps you focused.



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Sounds like you are agreeing witrh your child side and probably are caring the same attitude with the teacher that the child is and you should never act like a five year old if you have one. I say that everyone has a boss and if the principal dosen't work go to the board of education but if you don't think that a single adult figure will give you the respect that you deserve as this childs parent than you may need to reavaluate how you are acting to the situation and maybe they think that you are personally attacking them be adult about it LOL YOUR A CHILD

Go to the principal in the actual school, and wait until they see you, get the other parents to go with you to make your point stronger, tell him/her the problem, and demand that this teacher be talked to. This is the second year in a row this b*tch has treated your child, and many others, like crap, and I would get her fired for treating my kid like that. If the principal wont do anything, go to the school board with the other parents, if that doesnt work, then sue the school. Most of all, get the other parents involved as well. It will make your point stonger.

Short and to the point sounds good to me.
Maybe explain to her that the kid has been to a doctor and is fine. The school nurse should be testing her eyesight each year as well, so if the school nurse isn't finding anything ( you would definitly know if she did) then there is no problem. This teacher is a teacher, NOT an optometrist, or psychologist, or any sort of medical professional. She is not qualified to make diagnosises, or any sort of decisions about your childs attention span or eyesight.
You will probably not be able to fix this problem. The teacher will not be willing to admit that she's wrong, and the principal will not admit that the teacher is wrong. You and your kid will probably just have to deal with it. You could go in and speak to her and make it clear that you and your daughter don't want to hear any of her crap, but that will just give you and your daughter a bad repution in the school district.

If there is another 4th grade teacher in the district, you might be able to have your kid transferred to another class, but they tend to not like doing that.
My mother had me switched out of 2 different classes when I was in elementary school, because of problems like this.